We hear a lot about people being in “complex”. Talking about “complex”, it surely is a place, a feeling, a state, a thing and actually a term having multiple meanings. It is all about your perception how you perceive this word. To me it can be a place that no one can see but can feel when someone is there and a place that we create ourselves, a state that anyone can go through or a condition that even the person going through this “complex thingy” doesn’t know. No matter how much successful we are but this word “complex” follows us everywhere. There are always three levels of everything either success, failure, hope, health etc. and this same goes with “Complex”. The middle level is achieved by a very few people though the higher level “Superiority complex” and the lowest level “Inferiority complex” are in common observation. The funny thing that both lead the person to the depths of failure though that person might be very successful in its life to the world but deep inside he is a failure. Both are actually, if talking scientifically, a psychological state of self-defense mechanism Talking about “Superiority complex”, it is a sort of exaggerated feeling of a person that he is actually superior to others. I sometimes see persons around me walking as if they are “really something” you know what I mean. Okay people if you have a really highly paid job or you come in a really expensive car or whatever! So what? We have the same internal organization of body systems and anatomy. Or maybe they might have a stomach that releases royal acid instead of hydrochloric acid and oh yes may be they think there bones are made of expensive calcium and phosphorus and ours is made from the substandard minerals. Come one! If Allah has made you better in status than stop thinking yourself as a super power and others as tiny creatures that you can step and walk away or pretend as if they are invisible to you. So this was a category of people “having something” and thinking themselves as “something something”. And this “something" reminds me that there is another category “having nothing” but thinking themselves as “really something”. You all might have noticed that person around you that has nothing to be proud of but walks across you as they are the boss! Hahaha and we all say (in our language) “Dude what’s with this attitude?” Do not worry yes there are some personalities like this who have a superiority complex of being superior on the basis of nothing. Call them over confident or self-obsessed or self-centered. I really want to stop such persons and ask “hello? Come down bro/mam I am here too!
Okay now let us open up this “Inferiority complex”, people who consider them as inferior to others. And to be honest I really feel pity for such persons at least those who are flying at the heights of “being superior” are far much better than these folks (especially the ones falling in the second category as they have nothing but have the guts to walk like a king). Like they have been blessed by Almighty Allah with so many blessings but still consider themselves as incomplete and low. A girl who is really pretty, highly educated, born with a silver spoon in mouth and has everything a girl wants; sees a girl who has hair longer and beautiful than hers…. Down comes all her confidence and she forgets she have instead curses herself for not having hair like her and complaining God. On the other hand consider a business man having chains of business in many cities but as soon as he sees a person owing just a single company but working himself successfully in the business field, forgets what he had and feels inferior and afraid that if he has achieved everything after such a long time than how could he get in such a short time. Though I am a girl but I agree that this “Inferiority complex” is more common in women than in men. Do not get bore people a simple solution to be moderate and not having this disease of complexity is
that always look down on the people who are living without all those things that you have not even ever thought about then you will thank Allah for everything you have. To me if you have all your five senses working, your body parts working, you are getting food to eat and you are breathing without any hindrance than you are really a complete people. Always thank Allah for what you have and He will surely bless with what you don’t have. No doubt human being is the most beautiful creation of Allah. Recognize yourself and don’t let yourselves fall into categories.
