How many times have you imagined yourself picking up a chick by impressing her with skills (you don’t have), with words (you don’t know), and good looks (yeah, right)? In those few seconds, I fantasize about how I’d be her knight in shining armor and how I’d rescue her from some guy or her boring friends because I think she could do so much better with me. But reality’s not that kind to me. I always end up not doing anything at all. It happened with me everyday, and it still does.
I’ll share a small story of a young boy named Abdullah Tariq (name has been changed to protect the identity of the person). Here’s a picture of him when he was 14 years old.
And here’s the same guy 2 years later.
His hormones turned him into a monster. Puberty took away anything that made him feel good about himself; he loved himself alone while hating himself secretly. It was getting really bad for him. But little did he know that his charming acne did attract some chicks.
After about a million rejections and the tantrums that followed them, Abdullah found a girl – ImAlways RightAnd YoureWrong. Lets call her FootNose. Because he had low self-esteem, Abdullah did everything to keep FootNose happy, but couldn’t. There is no way you can please a woman who’s not satisfied with the person you are. After only two months, Abdullah dumped her because she never listened to him, didn’t let him watch porn, didn’t let him swear, and didn’t let him be himself.
Surprisingly, Abdullah felt better after ending things with FootNose. Life was good for a while. He was still ugly, but he knew he could be someone better if he tried. And so he came up with a plan. Abdullah started hitting on everyone. He tried his luck with any girl he could find. Used all the pickup lines and jokes he could find on the internet. It didn’t work out at all in the beginning, but that was okay.
Abdullah kept a to-do list with himself. It included names of a million girls, and for each girl who rejected him, a small goal he would strive to achieve. The goal was usually a change within him that would benefit him in the long run. And after the first few rejections, Abdullah learned how to handle them: He hated the girl who turned him down, and promised himself he would become someone she’d die to be with. Abdullah managed to turn his anger, jealousy, and feeling of rejection into positive energy, and worked on getting better. And that is why, “Behind every successful man is a woman.”
You might be wondering what he did about his horrible looks, and how he learned to accept them. During his journey, Abdullah learned that your physical appearance to a girl is exactly like a graduating GPA to getting a job: The most a good graduating GPA will get you is an interview; it will never promise you a job. Similarly, good looks will help you in starting a conversation with a girl, but it’s your brain and your qualities which will keep her interested in you.
Abdullah is 21 years old now, and has learned almost everything he needed to know about women. He is happy with himself, and knows that if he works hard enough, there will be no girl out of his league. His journey has made him a better person.
Abdullah Tariq
Re-published By:
Fakeha Ali